Do You Think or Do You React?

Dec 10, 12 | 12:08 am

By Alan Fairweather

How you think, your relationship with yourself is what decides how well you communicate with your customers and relate to your team. The most important relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself so you've got to get that right.

Henry Ford said, (he was the guy who started all the traffic chaos) — ‘Thinking is the hardest work there is, that's why so few people do it.’

Too often we don't think and just react to how we feel. The successful business person doesn't react, they — think!

Successful people have a deep understanding of their own minds. They're aware of their needs, their strengths and weaknesses, and their emotions. They're honest with themselves and resultantly, with their customers and their team.

In running their own minds successful people know what they're good at and what they're not so good at. Again it's important to be honest with yourself.

Some people take on tasks they're not good at, thinking that they should be able to do whatever it is. They then make a complete mess of it and beat themselves up for being so useless.

On the other hand, don't ever put yourself down; challenge and test yourself before deciding whether you can do something or not.

Successful people have confidence in themselves, they accept their weaknesses but they don't see it as a failure. They speak out when they don't know something and they ask for help when they need it.

Have you ever asked a question at a meeting possibly feeling a bit stupid and thinking everyone else knows the answer? At the coffee break someone then says, ‘I'm glad you asked that question because I didn't know either but I didn't like to ask.’

Successful people have the courage to challenge what they hear in their own mind and also what they hear from other people.

It's vital to run your own mind and think before you speak or take action, however, it's also important not to think too much. Sometimes you need to trust your instincts and your gut feelings.

If you're interviewing someone and your gut feeling is that this person isn't right for the job, then don't hire them.

Too often, business people suppress their gut feeling; they react — ‘I must be stupid, I'm probably wrong, they'll be okay once they've started working with me.’  No they won't!

So just some food for thought — think and don't react.