Below are my thoughts from a sometimes Cynical Head Hunter. Try not to be but at times I just can't help myself. Maybe I am in dire need of a holiday.
NOT SUCH A GRAND MOTHER/GO AND ASK YOUR MUM.
Well, I can easily count 5 times this year where the demise of a Grandmother just as a candidate is about to be offered a position, or has been offered a position and pulled out due to a Grandmother Pining for the Fiords.
Ok a little cynical here. Is it me being a little bit suspicious, or is it the shock that a Grandmother receives when they are informed that their Grandson or Daughter is flying the coup......
Now, I wouldn't be so cynical, however, 3 of the 5 candidates picked up positions a week later in other companies. A damn quick funeral I would say. And a Grandmother is hard to confirm than an immediate family member.
However, I should be careful as in 1995 in Tokyo; I became annoyed at a Director of PR not turning up to his interview for a major international drink company only to find out later that evening he had been struck by a train.
This did teach me a lesson; don't travel to interviews by train.
(He is OK and last I heard happy and healthy)
GO AND ASK YOUR MUM!
After 14 years of recruitment around the world I still get caught out with this one and have left some pointers at how not to get caught or at least cover your bases.
It also sounds like you to have been caught out. I hear many stories from Directors of Human Resources, General Managers,VP's etc who have all been caught.
One Question I have now been asking before putting forward an offer is:
HAVE YOU ASKED YOUR MOTHER?
Going back to our childhood daze; before Dad let you do anything he would say these immortal words: " Go and ask your Mother."
Receiving the affirmative from Mum, Dad could not be held liable......clever dad! Same with recruitment:
How often have we all heard, after the offer has reached the table or a candidate is about to be offered:
A. "After much deliberation and discussion with my family I have to decline the position."
B. "Having had a long talk to my partner, it is with much regret that I have to pull out of the position."
C. "After much thought and tossing and turning I have decided to......................."
D. "Due to my partner having, being, wanting, accepting,..................."
E. "We would require schooling for my 5 children and work for my wife"
F. "Due to the untimely demise of my Grandmother in a Rugby Game, (apologies, had to put that one in)
Not to be caught out any more or at least cover your bases, ask the candidate these questions:
1."If offered the position would you accept.?"
2." Have you discussed this position in depth with your partner/wife/family? (If the partner is not happy then it will not work) Head Hunters, Recruiters, Hotel and Resort Companies are not here to split up families or relationships.
3." Have you viewed the property, spoken to associates in the industry regarding the location. The company?".
4."Is your wife/partner keen"?
5. Do you have children? As this is a single or partner position, Does the wife or partner need to work"? Many times the marital status is not included in the resume and comes out once we all get excited we have a great candidate.
6. "Do your children require schooling"?
At least the above questions like your dad "Have you asked mum?" helps to cover your bases. You can't be held accountable later by powers further up the chain, if you cover your bases. That's all you can do. You have to feel comfortable that all that could be done was done.
We are not mind readers. We are just human capable of amazing and wonderful things and always have our own personal reasons for doing what we do. And that's OK.
Now I have got that off my chest I feel much better.
Thanks for listening and have a great week and thank you for being part of ESI's News Letter. It is a pleasure to be part of this industry.